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Bible
Questions & Answers Archive
Love or Hate of Family
By: Dr. Max D. Younce
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Question
What are your thoughts on
Exodus 20:12, "Honour thy father and thy mother", and Luke 14:26,
"If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and
wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life
also, he cannot be my disciple."?
Answer
The word "hate" is a comparative word in the Greek, and not an
absolute word. The tender love we have for our father, mother and loved
ones is like hatred as compared to the love we should have for our
Saviour.
A Christian may have unsaved relatives who are opposed
to and try to interfere with your service to the Lord. They do not want
you to witness, saying, "You shouldn’t try to shove your beliefs on
someone else". They schedule a family reunion on Sunday and hate it when
you don’t come until after church.
Years ago, when I told my father I was going to Bible
college, he became very upset. I had a good job at that time, three
small children, and a beautiful home in the country. My dad, whom I
loved very much, thought I had "gone off the deep end". I hated to hear
the things he said to me; but, I loved him and knew that he was not a
mature Christian.
As a Christian, you hate to have relatives tell you
not to mention Christ when you are in their home. Yes, you hate the fact
they get mad when you will not let them drink alcohol in your home
because they do not respect you. Yes, you hate anything that seems to
hinder you from serving the Lord or ruin your testimony. Sometimes the
hardest persecution comes from relatives. Yes, we hate their actions;
but, we do not hate them. Why? Because we realize they are not saved or,
if a Christian, have not matured enough to recognize that putting Christ
first is where real happiness iis found.
"It is better to trust in the Lord than to put
confidence in man." (Psalm 118:8)
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