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Dr. Max D. Younce, Pastor Walnut Grove, MN - USA
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Should a Protestant Marry a Roman Catholic?
By Dr. Max D. Younce
Is there any Scriptural advice concerning Protestants marrying Catholics?
Romans 16:17,18 states, “Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offenses contrary to the doctrine (i.e., the Word of God) which ye have learned: and AVOID THEM. For they are such that serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.” II Corinthians 6:14 is very clear concerning whom a Christian should marry. “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness (the saved) with unrighteousness (the unsaved)? And what communion hath light (the saved) with darkness?”
Concerning your question regarding Protestants, a distinction needs to be made. The Roman Catholic Church seems to list all denominations outside itself as Protestant, which incorporates myriads of cult religions along with true Christianity. The Roman Catholic Church, itself, is a man-made religious organization which propagates itself to the world as the only true church. Your question really becomes, “Should a Christian marry a religious unbeliever?” In other words, if a person believes what the Roman Catholic Church teaches concerning Salvation, they are not a Christian, but lost, facing eternal damnation. The following are just a few of the claims of Catholicism that are exposed as lies and false teaching by the Word of God.
1.a. Salvation – Teaching of Catholicism according to the Council of Trent. (1545-1563). “If anyone should say that justifying faith is nothing other than a trust in God’s mercy remitting sins on account of Christ or that it is simply trust itself by which we are justified, let him be Anathema (i.e., “accursed”).”
b. Salvation – According to the teaching of God’s Word, the Bible. Since Catholicism claims to follow Peter with the succession of the Popes; then, why do they deny Peter’s teaching now? Notice how the Apostle Peter’s words contradict the teaching of Catholicism. Here are Peter’s words at the Jerusalem Council in Acts 15:9,11. “And put no difference between us (Jews) and them (Gentiles), purifying their hearts by FAITH. But we believe that through the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ we shall be saved, even as they.” The Roman Catholic Church doesn’t even believe Peter, who they claim was the first pope! They deny the Bible again by claiming Peter to be a pope, when Peter, himself, said, he was an ELDER, not a pope. Notice I Peter 5:1, The elders which are among you I exhort, WHO AM ALSO AN ELDER.” (The terms “elder, overseer, and bishop” are used synonymously for the office of pastor.)
Ephesians 2:8,9 clearly exposes the false teaching of good works for salvation by the Catholic Church. ‘For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God. NOT OF WORKS, lest any man should boast.” The amazing thing is that the Douay Roman Catholic Bible says, “Not the OUTCOME of works.” The New American Bible, now used by Catholics states in Ephesians 2:8,9 that salvation is not of works; yet, the priests don’t even believe their own Bible and teach exactly opposite of what it says. If you believe the Catholic Church, you are lost on your way to Hell. If you believe what the Bible teaches about salvation, that eternal life is result of simply believing that Jesus Christ died to pay for your sin, you are saved and on your way to Heaven. Period!
2.a. Catholicism – The priests claim they are the mediators between God and men.
b. The Bible, God’s Word - I Timothy 2:5, makes the Roman Catholic Church a liar. “For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.” NOT the priest.
3.a. Catholicism – The priests love to be called “Father.”
b. The Bible, God’s Word. Jesus Christ speaking Himself said never call a religious leader “Father” in Matthew 23:9. “And call no man your father upon the earth; for one is your father, which is in heaven.” This, of course, is not speaking of your biological father. Notice when we address our real spiritual father in Matthew 6:9, “After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed by thy name.” Read the first seven verses of Matthew 23 and you will find that pride is the reason they want to be addressed as such.
Personally, I have talked to approximately 150 priests and have had some to our home for lunch to discuss their beliefs. One priest told me, honestly, if they could get people to address them as “Father,” they would believe anything else they were taught.
4.a. Catholicism – Uses alcoholic wine for the Lord’s Supper.
b. The Bible, God’s Word – In Leviticus 10:9, God forbids the priest from bringing any alcoholic wine or drink into the congregation. Notice God’s Word, “Do not drink wine nor strong drink, thou, nor thy sons with thee, when ye go into the tabernacle of the congregation, lest ye DIE…” In the New Testament, at the Lord’s Supper, it is made perfectly clear that grape juice, NOT alcoholic wine is to be used. “Fruit of the vine” is always sweet grape juice and is used specifically in distinction from alcoholic wine. It is used in the account of the Lord’s Supper in Matthew 26:29; Mark 14:29; and in Luke 22:18. So…what the Catholic priest is doing today is not only defying the Word of God; but, having you follow him instead of the Word of God!
5.a. Catholicism – Forbids the priest to be married , using the philosophy they can devote more time to their ministry.
b. The Bible – God’s Word – The Old Testament priests were required by God to be married. We find in Leviticus 21:13,14, “And he (the priest) shall take a wife in her virginity.” Notice the priest is ordered to be married if he is going to serve as a priest. The Bible says “shall take”, not “may take.” In other words, he has no choice in the matter. If he is going to be a priest, he has to be married. Period! Verse 14 gives the qualifications for whom he shall marry. “A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife.”
(1). Pastors are to be married. I Timothy 3:2 makes this unquestionably clear. “A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach.”
(2) Deacons in the church must also be married. Notice Verse 12 of the same chapter. “Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.”
(3) It is too bad when the Pope rules contrary to the Word of God. Is it any wonder that the priesthood is saturated with pedophiles and homosexuals. In fact, the Bible says the teaching and forbidding of the priest to marry is the Satanic doctrine of demons, not the Holy Spirit. We find this in I Timothy 4:1,3. “Now the spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times, some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils (demons); FORBIDDING TO MARRY and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.” (I wonder how many follow the Satanic teaching of not eating meat on Friday?)
6.a. Catholicism – Teaches the gullible that the Pope is infallible. Quoting from the writings of Catholicism, here is what they want you to believe. Roman Catholic doctrine further states that whatever the Pope says is infallible, which would make
“It follows therefore that the Pope is a supreme judge in all manners of faith and morals, and his pronouncements on these matters have the guarantee of INFALLIBILITY.”
(1). The Roman Catholic Church wants you to believe that the Pope is over the whole world and teaches all Christians. Here is their declaration, according to the COUNCIL OF FLORENCE. (1438-1443). “We define furthermore that the Holy Apostolic See and the Roman Pontiff hold primacy over the WHOLE WORLD, and that the Roman Pontiff, himself, is the successor of St. Peter, Prince of the Apostles, the true Vicar of Christ, head of the entire church, father and teacher of all Christians…”
b. The Bible, God’s Word – Proverbs 30:5 says that “Every word of God is pure.” It does not say that every word of the Pope is pure. As previously shown, the pope not only contradicts, but adds to and takes away from the Word of God. As one compares the word of the Pope with the Word of God, it is easy to see who is lying and teaching the people falsely. Proverbs 30:6 says, “Add thou not unto his words, lest he reprove thee, and thou be found a liar.” Romans 3:4 nails it down! “Let God be true, but every man a liar.” I have only listed a handful of the multiplicity of the false teaching of Catholicism.
A true, born-again Christian is one who is trusting completely, with no reservations, that Jesus Christ, perfect and sinless, took on human flesh, went to the cross, was crucified, buried and risen from the dead as full payment for all their sins, past, present and future, without any works of their own involved. They now possess the peace of God, knowing they will never perish, but have everlasting life and are passed from death unto life.
I cannot think of an exception of those I have talked with who have married a Catholic. The priest will not marry the couple unless the Christian, who is non-Catholic, signs an agreement to permit their their children to be raised as Catholic. May I say, the Catholic person may very well be a nice, wonderful individual, man or woman. What is overlooked is their spiritual beliefs, and as time goes on, these will affect the relationship of the marriage; which, in turn, will have a tremendous effect upon the children.
The conflict is really over the Word of God. One believes the teaching of the Catholic Church and the other believes the teaching of the Word of God. They are diametrically opposed! This can change sweetness into bitterness real fast and does NOT make for a lasting and happy marriage. Romans 16:17 and II Corinthians 6:14 advise that one should avoid the situation of marriage where these spiritual conditions persist.
No, a Christian should not marry a Catholic and should not even allow the relationship to progress until the spiritual conflict is resolved. If it cannot be resolved, it is much better to break off the relationship, and still be friends, than to pursue it and have a marriage of compromise and heartache.
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